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What is the frenzy?

For us, the frenzy is 2 careers, 2 children, 3 large extended families from 2 cultures... So basically the frenzy is the everyday life of 2 working parents with too much to do.

We generally have to live in a constant state of chaos where we text and call each other and extended family members trying to figure out the intersection of our calendars that allows us to pick up or drop off children, get groceries, do laundry, etc. I can't say that we have found the perfect solution to managing this chaos we call the frenzy. But we have found a few coping mechanisms that work for us.

Perhaps along the way we will share a few that will work for you as well. Or they won't. Giving advise to parents is usually a hazardous pursuit to engage in. Whatever we know is based on our children who have their own special soup of nature and nurture that differs significantly from any others. Especially those children that walk quietly behind their parents in the grocery store.

But most importantly, we're working on learning to embrace the frenzy. We're working on managing the circumstances we have a chance of changing and accepting the things we cannot control. Perhaps some wisdom to distinguish between the two. You cannot really fight the frenzy, nor can you simply surrender to it. It's better to find some sort of balance. So we're finding ways to zen the frenzy. And yes to all the English majors out there, I know I just used a noun as a verb. I figure it's healthy to color outside the lines when writing. Or it's just lazy but as I said, we're deep in the frenzy here and that's the best I can do.

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